I'm a thirty-five trans woman, and I get nervous when dating a stranger. I want to act as a confident and self-actualized woman, so I use alcohol to relax myself in some situations. Drinking makes me fresh and honest, I'm not twenty, so I cherish every dating opportunities. I used to drink a lot before the first trans dating, but now I found it is wrong to do that. As I'm getting older, dating nervous is especially difficult to overcome.Sometimes, trans and tranny date for transgender women is like a game, a two-side game, in which I don't know whether I can be myself. Finding a perfect trans dating partner is not as easy as what is said in articles and dating tips. In order to manage myself when dating a man, I need amounts of alcohol. However, I'm fail to find a potential dating partner in that way. Dating for me is just a game, a chore without feedback. I didn't know the reason of my dating failure until aware the importance of sober dating.
Alcohol is powerful to make or break your dating, and I didn't have know that. Sometimes, I consume alcohol to enjoy the wonderful moment and be myself, sometimes, alcohol makes me do something that not fit my personality. A small amount of alcohol is helpful during the dating process, while over drinking may impair your judgment and affect your dating result. When I drink too much on the first encounter, I cannot even think and control my words and actions. The first dating should be a great start of a relationship, it should reflect the real me, not the drunken reaction. When I'm sober, I can speck fluently and share my stories with my dating partners, while when I'm drunken I mat speak in a tone which is strange to my ear. After several tines of failure, I know that it is ineffective to decrease nervousness with alcohol. I realized that sports and meditation are great way to relax myself before dating, I don't know whether they work on you. These alternatives help me to free myself, and reach a comfortable state.
Your dating may be destroyed by alcohol, but dating for lunch or tea break can be a great choice. Dating during the day looks soberer than dating during the night, there are many casual places for transgender dating during the day. As sports enthusiast, I suggest you to do some sports together in dating. Sport is a casual choice for dating, if your partner is also a sports enthusiast, you can enjoy it together with your partner. If your partner is new to the sport, it gives you an opportunity to teach her/him, and share your experience with her/him. When describe my dating experience, I often use the same sentence to describe the same occasion. In fact, there are always something new and interesting in our life that is waiting to be discovered. As a single woman, I need to meet new people, and sober dating is the best way to meet perfect life partner.